Words of A

According to thefreedictionary, pain is “an unpleasant sensation occurring in varying degrees of severity as a consequence of injury, disease, or emotional disorder” and it can also mean “suffering or distress”. Normally, people rate pain from 1-10 for comparison or medical purposes. But how do we really know how much pain we’re feeling? Can we really rate pain? If ever we can, is it accurate?

Some people say that they’re more in pain compared to other people but I beg to disagree with the idea. For me, we really can’t compare each other’s pain because we can’t really know what the other party is really feeling. We can base on their description of how painful they’re feeling but we can’t really know. We can never be certain. We will never know until we step in their shoes. We will never understand until we become that person, until we live that person’s life. To quote one of my favourite books ever written...

“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view... Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.”

It’s so easy to say that we’re having it harder compared to anyone else we know, but that is just coming from our own point of view, the only point we will ever understand fully because we’re living it. So, the next time we’re feeling a little too down, let’s just remember that “Everyone we meet is fighting their own battle.” No one is having it real easy. Everyone is having a hard time but some people just know how to handle it well. I’m gonna end this post with a lyric I come across the web and I’ve always remembered..

“We’re all in the same game, just different levels. Dealing with the same hell, just different devils.”

A♥

The Perks of Being a Wallflower: Movie Review

NOTE: All the photos were grabbed from google.com and not my property.

I watched the movie adaptation of The Perks of Being a Wallflower earlier. It was written, directed and co-produced by Stephen Chbosky.

I really cannot tell which is better, the book or the movie because there were a lot of omitted parts from the book. But that fact doesn't necessarily mean that the movie was a mess either, it was good in fact it made me laugh and cry at certain scenes. So I'm just gonna put it like this, the movie was so good, you have to watch it! And the book was really great, you have to read it!☺

As expected, some of the popular quotes from the book were mentioned like: 

"We accept the love we think we deserve."

"Even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from,we can still choose where we go from there."

"You can't just sit there and put everyone's lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love."

"I am both happy and sad at the same time, and I'm still trying to figure out how that could be."

"And in that moment, I swear we were infinite."

NOTE: SPOILER COMING UP!

Some of the scenes that were noticeably omitted or changed: 

a. Candace getting pregnant and getting a proper name. - I personally like that they didn't include this one because it will cause a lot of fuss. I personally didn't like Candice's way of solving her 'problem'. Because for me, it isn't a problem in the first place! And the fact that she kind of dragged her younger brother is way beyond me but their sibling relationship in the book really prosper after that incident. And in the book, Charlie's sister doesn't have a proper name, she's just mentioned as his sister. 

b. Charlie visited Bill's place. - I wanted this one to have been part of the film! This is an important part of the book for me because Bill, Mr. Anderson in the movie, told Charlie how special he was! And I kind of don't get it why they used Mr. Anderson instead of Bill. Bill's character for me is as important as Patrick's. Yes, so important I'd prefer emphasizing it in the movie.

c. The bully girl in Charlie's English class. - I cannot remember her. I don't think she's in the book but I kind of get it why they've put her there, maybe to have more empathy to Charlie.(I'm guessing!)

d. The Charlie helping Sam to study scene. - It's not in the book but I like that they've put it in the movie, it kind of brought them closer and their relationship felt more special. I love them together!

There are a lot more small details that had been changed or omitted but it's not for me to tell you everything, but it's for you to notice these things. I really recommend the book and the movie because it's a new concept to read or watch and it's also easy to relate to. And the quotes were really great, I almost wanna tweet the whole book! :p

Before finishing this post with my insight, I would like to commend Logan Lerman, Emma Watson and Ezra Miller. They've acted really well! Ezra was really funny when he wants to be and when the emotional part in the park happened, I was really affected. When I first knew that Emma would play Sam's part I was at first hesitant, but after seeing her, she's really an actress now! She's not just Hermione anymore. Lastly, Logan is the perfect Charlie! I swear! He's so good I wanna watch the movie again!☺

After watching the movie, I noticed that Charlie, Sam, and Patrick are three very different people but they understand each other very well. They accept their individuality. And I find their relationships very appealing because in this world we are in, it's so hard to find great people that will have your back no matter what, where, and when. So if you find one or a couple of them, treasure them and don't ever take them for granted.☺ (Yes, as much as I'm a cheesy sucker of love, I also dig friendship.)

A♥

Hopeless Romantic

I have been M.I.A. because I don't have anything to write about or everytime I try to type something, I always run out of words. But I decided to try my luck now because while I'm watching videos on youtube, it suddenly struck me that I wanted to share my take on THE four letter word, so famous and so complicated due to its broad meaning.

Even though I come across with the realities of real life relationships of the people around me, I still freaking believe in love. And it's just not simply love, I believe in the kind of love that conquers all; the love that sees no wrongs; the love that accepts your whole being-both the good and the bad; the love that is so pure, it's always forgiving; the love that no one can break apart; the love that every girl is asking for since they turned 10. Subconsciously or should I say when l'm not dreaming, I know that I'm being idealistic with these thoughts. I'm too positive about love that it's becoming unreal anymore.

Am I the one to blame for my belief? Or should we blame the authors of those amazingly put novels? As well as the writers of those tv shows and movies that fires up these beliefs? These stories being told or being shown are so good we actually believe all of it to be possible in reality. Is it really possible to meet the one person who'll love you forever? Is forever just a word? Has love lost its meaning in this crazy world we're living? I can go on and on with my questions, but the answers are still uncertain.

Nicholas Sparks made girls believe that a man can change from bad to good for a girl, that he can do anything and everything to prove his love, that he can keep his promise even after years together or even apart, and 'til death do us part is actually lived.

Friends With Benefits and A Lot Like Love showed that men can be capable of grand gestures. I'm supposed to put clips here but youtube isn't cooperating with me so I'm just gonna describe the scene I'm talking about. In FwB, Dylan(Justin Timberlake) had a flash mob dancing over Closing Time in Grand Central Station to apologize to Jamie(Mila Kunis). Dylan said, "You said you wanted your life to be like a movie. Sorry I had to use the real Grand Central instead of the fake one." I can't find the Grand Central Station scene so here's the Friends With benefits trailer instead. ☺

In A Lot Like Love, Ollie(Ashton Kutcher) sang while playing the bass Bon Jovi's I'll Be There For You in front of Emily's(Amanda Peete) apartment. I'm so happy I found a clip of it! Enjoy watching!♥

When Harry Met Sally, City of Angels, and If Only showed that men can love truthfully, deeply, and irrevocably.

"And I love that you are the last person I wanna talk to before I sleep at night, and it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's new year's eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you wanna spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." -Harry

"I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss of her mouth, one touch of her hand, than an eternity without it. One." -Seth

"If not for today, if not for you, I would never have known love at all. So thank you for being the person who taught me to love and to be loved." -Ian

I believe in these things and I hope my belief is so strong it manifests to come out in reality. But as I wish for these grand gestures, confessing of love, and living up with the promises made; I'm fully aware that those things are not the whole part of it and that life is not like the novels, movies, or series; there's no happily ever after. But I think that's not a reason to be down and to stop believing in these amazing things. I personally think that love is worth all of it. The happiness felt from love is far more fulfilling to lose hope for it.

I'm gonna end this post with a comparison, for example, a dish to be able to taste great has to be full of flavors--combinations of sweetness, tangy-ness, bitterness, saltiness, and with a little bit of spice, in different amounts depending on the person's preference because we each have our own. Like in love. It's going to be combinations of different emotions, but that doesn't mean it's not gonna be perfect because when all of those things are put together, it's gonna create a great product everyone will gonna be envious about. But if love is like cooking, it's not also gonna be easy and it's gonna take time, patience and determination, and after all that, there will always gonna be competition.



A♥